I think there are some people who want to spoil other people's pleasure in achievement, and I think some of them can be found on usenet.
If Omega had said that to me, I'd have gritted my teeth, rather than asked for clarification, because I think she was just being clueless -- it mostly would strike me as off because it's what you say to someone starting a PhD, not someone achieving one -- or as various people have said, it's what people say themselves in the middle of one. It's out of season.
The problem with asking for clarification is you get what was said afterwards, and that was spiteful and mean spirited and the more you say the more it appears you can't take a joke -- which is why joking isn't funny unless it's consensual.
The problem with *not* asking is that you sit there being miserable -- that's what happened to me on usenet when my first novel came out and you may remember what happened to the possibility of my innocently squeeing over it. People get so into scoring points they forget other people are people.
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Date: 2003-09-04 06:57 am (UTC)If Omega had said that to me, I'd have gritted my teeth, rather than asked for clarification, because I think she was just being clueless -- it mostly would strike me as off because it's what you say to someone starting a PhD, not someone achieving one -- or as various people have said, it's what people say themselves in the middle of one. It's out of season.
The problem with asking for clarification is you get what was said afterwards, and that was spiteful and mean spirited and the more you say the more it appears you can't take a joke -- which is why joking isn't funny unless it's consensual.
The problem with *not* asking is that you sit there being miserable -- that's what happened to me on usenet when my first novel came out and you may remember what happened to the possibility of my innocently squeeing over it. People get so into scoring points they forget other people are people.