Oh, gosh, no -- I'm sorry *you're* having to deal with it. I wasn't nearly as invested in being part of the community. Just remembering a bit and sympathizing by way of 'been there', except I haven't really been there, so, see, but anyway.

The whole bit about hitting hidden intolerances holds in any community that prides itself on tolerance, I think. I'm glad you guys can articulate your issues so well, because I think you can be a good. Um. A good influence, if that's not a silly thing to say.