re: informing the doctor why, I'd let curiousangel do it, simply to satisfy the normal guy desire to rip apart anyone who is nasty to one's beloved in such a situation. Also, it's a lot easier to be angry on another person's behalf than on one's own.

But word should be spread around. Especially given the situation.

You know, it's one of those things... doctors aren't really *doing* stuff, for the most part. The body does stuff. Except for surgery and similar stuff, the doctor provides information, and support, and then should get the hell out of the way. It seems like this doctor was failing on the first two, and, if he's got a sense of self preservation, bloody well better do the third.