The poster in the original thread on another journal was making some statements about parents, professionals, and teachers being to blame for the over-diagnosis of serious disorders like ADHD and autism. I was happy when you corrected this.
However, you then made a statement blaming "almost all" parents of children disabled with Oppositional Defiant Disorder and Conduct Disorder. I rightly called you on this; you rightly apoplogized, and produced more accurate information about the brain differences in children with this disability. Thank you. But, in the interim period, I had a very respected and learned professional...a doctor...writing that I was the exception to the blame rule...that, based upon your training, I was the parent that was most likely to be at fault.
As the loving parent of an ODD child who will never recover, this made me cry.
Just like the original poster that enraged you with her misconceptions about autism made your friend Pat cry.
The original poster was also rightly called on her misconceptions. She rightly apologized, and has removed her statements. She did write about you in her journal, but she deleted that. You have written about her here. People are hurt, and defensive, and sad. Having a disabled child brings out a lot of feelings in professionals, laypeople, and parents, and it isn't easy to wade through, sometimes.
I would just ask, respectfully, that you review the similarities between what the original poster did that enraged you, and what you have done, and then let this matter rest. None of us are perfect, and we all have much to learn from eachother. Thank You for listening.
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Date: 2005-11-11 04:02 pm (UTC)However, you then made a statement blaming "almost all" parents of children disabled with Oppositional Defiant Disorder and Conduct Disorder. I rightly called you on this; you rightly apoplogized, and produced more accurate information about the brain differences in children with this disability. Thank you. But, in the interim period, I had a very respected and learned professional...a doctor...writing that I was the exception to the blame rule...that, based upon your training, I was the parent that was most likely to be at fault.
As the loving parent of an ODD child who will never recover, this made me cry.
Just like the original poster that enraged you with her misconceptions about autism made your friend Pat cry.
The original poster was also rightly called on her misconceptions. She rightly apologized, and has removed her statements. She did write about you in her journal, but she deleted that. You have written about her here. People are hurt, and defensive, and sad. Having a disabled child brings out a lot of feelings in professionals, laypeople, and parents, and it isn't easy to wade through, sometimes.
I would just ask, respectfully, that you review the similarities between what the original poster did that enraged you, and what you have done, and then let this matter rest. None of us are perfect, and we all have much to learn from eachother. Thank You for listening.