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Yes, it's fair. Have you ever read The Gift of Fear, by Gavin de Becker? One of the most important things he says, right after "Trust your gut -- you've got millions of years of evolution devoted to refining your perception that another animal is focussed on you as its prey", is that if someone is doing something that frightens you, they are in the wrong! It is not up to you to be polite, to worry about offending them, to try to make it right for them. If they are well-meaning, they can make it right by stopping the threatening behavior! If they don't -- and clearly the man who followed you knew that you felt threatened -- then they are not well-meaning!