As the child of someone who was insane around food (and still is), I just want to say I wish she had half your caring and self-awareness. A quarter. A *tenth*. My mom never gave up trying to shove food down our throats, even after it was determined that my brother wouldn't because he had a serious tonsil/adenoid problem that should have been diagnosed years earlier, and would have if she'd mentioned it to his pediatrician rather than using force, browbeating, etc., to make him eat.

You rock. You are a really good parent.