Herm. And darlin', that's what upsets me so much about some of the anti-formula brigade.

I'm not a psychologist, and probably won't even start trying to be one next year (maybe the year after), but I don't think anything really works for teaching and training except happiness, either now, or seen in the future. If you're driven by guilt, driven by fear, driven by shame, driven by pain, etc., you do whatever the minimum is that you need to do to *stop* those negative feelings. If you're driven by happiness and a desire to do something, you're more engaged, more aware, and more productive.

More importantly, no amount of guilt, stress, or sorrow is going to make a mom express more milk, or make a baby latch on better, or suck more productively.

And I'm babbling again, aren't I? Sorry about that.