In my experience, dealing with the parents is the hard part - because they bring so much baggage with them. See that viewing as a trial run, and then the kids will be *easy*. The kids *want* this information desperately, even if they don't know how to ask. And once you establish a foundation of trust and respect, they will be cool. (Middle school is tricky - but my formula for working with older teens boils down to "treat them with respect" because teens are so starved for respect.)