Could you set up a thought experiment comparing the concept with "using words to control or manipulate," and determining how much and why sex makes it MORE negative?
I'd pretty much say the same thing about manipulation/control through words that the curriculum does (http://rivka.livejournal.com/383744.html?thread=5981696#t5981696) about manipulation/control through sex: that it can range from harmless stuff to serious injury.
I think there are reasonably innocent or harmless examples of using sex to manipulate or control. If I put on a super-revealing outfit (like the shirt janetmiles has referred to as my "Rivka is a mammal!!" shirt) and walk through a con, enjoying the fact that I can cause men to lose track of what they were saying, there's some manipulation involved there. But it's not really harmful or negative.
Or, for example, if on one occasion I pretend to be more enthusiastic about sex than I actually am, because my partner has been in a bad mood and I know it will cheer her up and relax her... that's manipulation. But it's probably not actually wrong, unless it becomes an ongoing thing.
So it's not necessarily a matter of "OMG!!! WORST THING EVER!!" if something qualifies as "using sexuality to manipulate or control." But I think it is important to be aware of what you're doing.
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Date: 2007-10-25 03:02 pm (UTC)I'd pretty much say the same thing about manipulation/control through words that the curriculum does (http://rivka.livejournal.com/383744.html?thread=5981696#t5981696) about manipulation/control through sex: that it can range from harmless stuff to serious injury.
I think there are reasonably innocent or harmless examples of using sex to manipulate or control. If I put on a super-revealing outfit (like the shirt
Or, for example, if on one occasion I pretend to be more enthusiastic about sex than I actually am, because my partner has been in a bad mood and I know it will cheer her up and relax her... that's manipulation. But it's probably not actually wrong, unless it becomes an ongoing thing.
So it's not necessarily a matter of "OMG!!! WORST THING EVER!!" if something qualifies as "using sexuality to manipulate or control." But I think it is important to be aware of what you're doing.