I have that big gaping hole where kids should have been. My ex didn't want more than two children (that's not why he's the ex, but it was an issue for me). After bridgeweaver and I were together for about a year, I miscarried at least once, possibly twice before I got pregnant and it stuck. There are 12 years between Shannon and Colin. The gap is just one of those things. Yes, I would have loved to have had more kids to fill that gap (with enough money and a big enough house, I would have been happy with a dozen kids--yes, I'm crazy).
Closeness in age doesn't mean the kids will play well together or even get along at all. Jackie (17) and Shannon (14) have a lot of ups and downs in their relationship. They squabble a lot, but when it comes down to it, they stick up for and protect each other from the rest of the world. Colin (2 weeks younger than Alex) thinks Shannon is the best thing EVER and she's pretty fond of him, too. My siblings (20 months younger and 4.5 years younger than me) and I are far from close as adults and we used to fight constantly as children. My parents set up my siblings and I to fight and not get along. I'm working to make sure that I don't do the same thing with my own kids. Each of my kids think one of the other ones is the favorite, so I think I'm pretty close. :)
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Date: 2008-02-05 09:52 pm (UTC)Closeness in age doesn't mean the kids will play well together or even get along at all. Jackie (17) and Shannon (14) have a lot of ups and downs in their relationship. They squabble a lot, but when it comes down to it, they stick up for and protect each other from the rest of the world. Colin (2 weeks younger than Alex) thinks Shannon is the best thing EVER and she's pretty fond of him, too. My siblings (20 months younger and 4.5 years younger than me) and I are far from close as adults and we used to fight constantly as children. My parents set up my siblings and I to fight and not get along. I'm working to make sure that I don't do the same thing with my own kids. Each of my kids think one of the other ones is the favorite, so I think I'm pretty close. :)