My main problem is, on some issues, I'm still trying to figure out where *I* stand, and with only shrill caws back and forth that Practice A is (according to individuals) either mandatory or abusive, isn't helping. Sigh.

Also, I find the mommyboard I read the most (Circle of Moms, on Facebook) to be utterly overrun by people with almost no practical parenting knowledge, by my standards -- and many of them have multiple kids. Maybe it's just that I'm a geek, and I process through information ... and that I've a scientific bent of mind, but most of these people throw vocab around with no idea what it actually MEANS or how to weigh evidence.

And then there's the sizable group on there that think both (a) if your kid's not on rice cereal before they're 2 months old you're deliberately, abusively stunting their growth, and (b) that six-month-old infants are capable of being manipulative, and must be ignored when they cry because 'they're only doing it to get attention.'

Both of which viewpoints I find incomprehensible, though for differing reasons ... I try to keep a small circle of experienced moms I trust around to toss stuff at for sanity checks.