Do children go? In that culture? In my culture children of that age would stay home with a mother or aunt -- one mother would stay home with all the kids.

In that culture, I think, Alex could go either way but Colin would usually stay home. If it were going to be local, I would have both of them skip the visitation and stay home with a babysitter, and I'd give Alex a choice about coming to the funeral service.

But we'll be 900 miles from home and there is literally no one I could leave them with. I could stay home with them myself, but that would leave Michael without support. We have to find a way to make it work.