I feel skewered by your post, principally because it’s accurate, although not in exactly the same way you first thought. I catch myself thinking, sie ought to know that something’s going on without having to be told about it, and ought to have a pretty good idea of what it is that’s going on without having to be told as well...and then I catch myself up, and have to explain to my interior monologue that no, sie doesn’t necessarily know what’s going on, or even that something’s going on at all, and that I’d better sit down and figure out a way to speak up about it that’s not accusatory or confronting. Sometimes I succeed at this.
Sometimes I feel as though I play situations for sympathy, dramatizing my situation, and I continue to feel that way even when my friends and family tell me I “should have said something” long before—but I figured they had their own stuff to deal with, and didn’t need me bothering them with mine, until mine’s to the point I can’t stand it any longer—and then I do what I, at any rate, see as dramatizing. Which I then feel guilty for doing.
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Date: 2001-08-28 02:28 pm (UTC)I feel skewered by your post, principally because it’s accurate, although not in exactly the same way you first thought. I catch myself thinking, ...and then I catch myself up, and have to explain to my interior monologue that no, sie doesn’t necessarily know what’s going on, or even that something’s going on at all, and that I’d better sit down and figure out a way to speak up about it that’s not accusatory or confronting. Sometimes I succeed at this.
Sometimes I feel as though I play situations for sympathy, dramatizing my situation, and I continue to feel that way even when my friends and family tell me I “should have said something” long before—but I figured they had their own stuff to deal with, and didn’t need me bothering them with mine, until mine’s to the point I can’t stand it any longer—and then I do what I, at any rate, see as dramatizing. Which I then feel guilty for doing.