"Should have" doesn't matter. You've learned from this, and I guarantee the next time a doctor doesn't listen to you, you will be a better advocate for yourself and your health.
Exactly.
We learn to do better by being in situations where we don't do as well as we would like. That's how it works, I think. And hey, you noticed what wasn't right, and you are going to do something about it, and you are forearmed against possible future instances of poor practice by medical folks.
The feeling of "I should have"... makes me think of "This shouldn't have happened!" And you're not the one who made it happen. Yeah, maybe you wish you had spoken up more strongly or something, but k_crow is right:
please keep in mind that he was the one who overstepped by touching you, and even more so by not following your wishes in the health care you wanted to receive.
You getting flustered or intimidated is not proof of your fucking up on being assertive. On the contrary, it's additional proof of the doc's inappropriate actions. If someone can do this to you, then for goodness' sakes, what chance do his less informed, less articulate, or less empowered clients have? I bet your GP knows you aren't easily pressured. If so, I would cite your difficulty in advocating for yourself with that doc as an additional illustration of the type and degree of inappropriateness. (It's your call, though, of course. You'll know if that fits or not.)
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Date: 2002-12-20 02:04 pm (UTC)Exactly.
We learn to do better by being in situations where we don't do as well as we would like. That's how it works, I think. And hey, you noticed what wasn't right, and you are going to do something about it, and you are forearmed against possible future instances of poor practice by medical folks.
The feeling of "I should have"... makes me think of "This shouldn't have happened!" And you're not the one who made it happen. Yeah, maybe you wish you had spoken up more strongly or something, but k_crow is right:
please keep in mind that he was the one who overstepped by touching you, and even more so by not following your wishes in the health care you wanted to receive.
You getting flustered or intimidated is not proof of your fucking up on being assertive. On the contrary, it's additional proof of the doc's inappropriate actions. If someone can do this to you, then for goodness' sakes, what chance do his less informed, less articulate, or less empowered clients have? I bet your GP knows you aren't easily pressured. If so, I would cite your difficulty in advocating for yourself with that doc as an additional illustration of the type and degree of inappropriateness. (It's your call, though, of course. You'll know if that fits or not.)
[Sheeze. Now I wanna smack him. Grumblerumble.]