rivka: (alex & colin)
Colin the dinosaur:

tiniest_dinosaur

Alex the vampire (note that she is not sparkly, nor out in daylight):

count_alexcula

Also, I am not normally one to take, or post, nursing pictures, but I simply could not resist capturing this evidence that some dinosaurs are in fact mammals:

mammalian_dinosaur
rivka: (Alex the queen)
Alex did better yesterday, nibbling graham crackers and dry Cheerios and showing more of her customary energy. She had some rice again for dinner, and then we bathed her and put her to bed and held our breath.

She slept through the night and woke up cheerful. She asked me for "a big breakfast." Thinking of how tiny her appetite had been, I offered her a big piece of cinnamon toast, and she accepted. But while it was cooking, "Mom, I want a bagel and cream cheese." "You said you wanted cinnamon toast, so that's what I'm making you!" She thought for a moment. "How about both?"

And, yeah. She ate the cinnamon toast and then she ate a mini bagel with cream cheese. More like inhaled. So I dressed her up in her Halloween costume and took her to school, just in time for the Halloween parade. (I did check with her teacher to make sure that there wouldn't be a ton of sugary treats, because I didn't want to over-tax her stomach. Her teacher reported that each kid would get one lollipop, so yay.)

Michael reports that he has picked her up and that she is tired but well. I gave her nanny free reign to let Alex watch movies this afternoon, so she can conserve her energy and hopefully make a stop at the church Halloween party tonight.

Colin is better too. He hasn't needed to use the bulb syringe for a couple of days, and he has figured out how to nurse without scraping his brand-new teeth on me. I am extremely grateful. He wore his costume to drop Alex off at school and was much admired; pictures of both kids later.
rivka: (chalice)
Every year, our church runs a "Mystery Buddies" program in which kids from the congregation rare matched up with adults. They spend a month (I think it's March) trading notes back and forth, signing their notes with secret code names, until the end when all is revealed at a special breakfast.

Apparently, adults in the congregation have complained that they want their own Mystery Buddies program, because this year the program has been expanded with an adults-only version called the "Big Questions Exchange." Each Sunday in November, those who sign up exchange letters with a person they have been secretly matched to by the Director of Religious Education. At the end of the month, we'll meet our match. Each week, as the program name suggests, the letters are supposed to tackle big religious questions.

[livejournal.com profile] acceberskoorb assures me that my secret match doesn't read my LJ, so I'm going to post the letters I write each week.

Here's my first letter, addressing the question 'what happens when we die?' )
rivka: (alex pensive)
Alex seemed much better as the day wore on yesterday. She ate a fair serving of crackers for lunch and just in general had more energy and animation. At dinnertime I offered her white rice, jello, and a few slices of Colin's banana. She seemed well enough that I mentally rehearsed my arguments for why she couldn't have any of our steak, but instead she just picked at the rice and left most of her food on her plate. Her lack of appetite worried me, but I still thought she might be well enough to go to school today. After all the morning session is just three hours long.

Around 7:45 I gave her a ten-minutes-to-bedtime warning. "How about now?" she asked. Uh oh.

At 11pm she cried out. I went in and she was thrashing wildly, crying and saying things that didn't make any sense. She threw up on her pillow - but mercifully not her hair or nightgown - whimpered "I don't feel good," and went back to sleep.

So, back to square one. This morning she seems perky again, but I've got her back on clear liquids only. I hope she's well enough for the Halloween festivities tomorrow and Saturday.
rivka: (her majesty)
Alex woke up at 6am thinking she was going to throw up, but mercifully (a) it was a false alarm, and (b) she went back to sleep for another two hours. No fever this morning, and she's been able to manage about a pint of fluids and a few Ritz crackers. She still looks pretty peaked, though, and I'm not convinced that the fever is going to stay gone.

Poor kid. I hope she's better in time for Halloween parties and trick-or-treating.

Colin is congested and coughing but I don't think he has the flu. Man, are his new teeth (he has one and a half now) freakishly razor-sharp.

Nia-our-nanny is running a fever today too. I am home with the kids. Apparently, yesterday half of Alex's class was out sick. HALF. When I run down my Facebook feed it seems like everyone I know is either sick with the flu, or has kids with the flu, or just got over the flu, or is coming down with the flu. I guess that's what they mean by "pandemic," huh?

In other news, even though I was exhausted last night I broke out my birthday present, Dance Dance Revolution for the Wii. I haven't really played DDR before, so I spent most of my time on the lesson tracks, but even so it was totally fun. And a good workout! I think Michael's going to enjoy playing it too. Alex wanted to play but was totally unable to master the concept.
rivka: (ouch)
Alex has kept fluids down for almost 12 hours now. *crossing fingers* As a measure of how sick she was, her first sips of Pedialyte actually tasted good to her. I figured that her electrolytes were coming back into balance when she started to complain about the taste. Once she finished eight ounces (a teaspoon at a time), I let her switch to diluted apple juice and sip it through a straw at her own pace instead of having it measured out every three minutes by me. She's not working through it very quickly, but I figure she knows her own limits.

I offered her four Ritz crackers for lunch. In the time it took me to make my lunch and Colin's and for both of us to eat, she managed to nibble away half of one cracker. That was enough for her. I've got some Jell-O cooling in the fridge - hopefully that will go down more easily.

I checked in with her a little while ago as she lay on the couch watching Mary Poppins. Her tummy still felt bad, she reported. Not like she was going to throw up. Sore and achy. (I bet, after throwing up nine times!) I touched it gently, and it was hot. I looked at her face: pale, but with two rosy circles in her cheeks. Took her temperature: 99.9.

Her pediatrician's office says there's a stomach virus going around, that we can expect the vomiting stage to be followed by a diarrhea and fever stage, and that she may continue to have some symptoms for up to a week.

I went in to check on her again just now and told her that Michael would be bringing home some popsicles for her. She brightened. "I never had a popsicle before, except one time at the pool."

"Well, Dad's bringing home a whole box just for you, as a special treat," I told her.

"You can have one too, as a special treat," she said at once. "I'll share them with you. You can have one that's your favorite color."

Man. Where does she find the energy to be sweet right now?
rivka: (ouch)
...At least, when Alex threw up at 1:50, 2:05, and 2:30, it wasn't my birthday anymore?

Okay, not a very bright side.

We are now on a program of a teaspoon of Pedialyte every three minutes. If she can go an hour or two without throwing up, I'll throw caution to the wind and let her try an ounce of it.

Fun times.
rivka: (her majesty)
Rough day at work. But I came home and my whole family met me at the door, singing "happy birthday." They presented me with a Dance Dance Revolution game for the Wii, which is what I really wanted. Alex asked for paper and an envelope so that she could write out, laboriously, consulting us on every letter, "From Alex to Mama I hope you have a very happy birthday."

Michael took a brief nap because he's still recovering from the flu. We packed up the family, intending to head out for a festive sushi dinner. And then Alex climbed up into her carseat and abruptly, without a work of complaint or warning, threw up.

I helped her back out of the car and the next couple of rounds hit the sidewalk. We all trooped back inside. Alex is now ensconced on the couch with a basin and a video, but she seems to feel okay nowand she just threw up again. Argh.

When she goes to bed, we'll order sushi to be delivered. And sometime around my own bedtime I may actually get to have a piece of the birthday cake I made myself (because Michael = flu).

Oh, and Colin + congestion from a cold + his first erupted tooth = Bitey McBiterson. Ow.
rivka: (druggie horses)
If you've been online for more than five years? You've really got to check out today's XKCD.
rivka: (Rivka & kids)
I took the kids to a farm up north of the city this afternoon. They've got a corn maze, a pumpkin patch, hayrides, farm animals on display, a hay bale mini-maze for little kids, a dried-corn sandbox, apples and cider, and every other feature of wholesome harvest Americana imaginable.

When I could get past the self-conscious awareness that "I am having an iconic family experience!" I enjoyed myself.

We couldn't have asked for a more beautiful day:

pumpkin_patch

I had been kind of dubious about whether it would be wise to enter the corn maze when I had both kids by myself. (Look at that thing!) But Alex was really, really excited and we decided to go for it. Because we've had torrential rains recently, areas of the maze - especially near the entrance - were unbelievably muddy. They'd put down sheets of plywood which were now only covered in a couple of inches of mud, but if you stepped off the plywood you could easily find yourself in sucking, oozing mud up over your shoe tops.

cornmaze1

Fortunately it was much drier and less terrifyingly slippery as you got further in.

I loved the way the maze was designed. If you wanted an intense challenge, you could search the maze for twelve way stations that had irregularly-shaped hole punches attached. If you punched your ticket with all twelve, you "won." But if you just wanted the experience of wandering around in a maze, it wasn't that difficult to figure out which direction would bring you back out. Alex loved it. She led the way, directing us at every intersection with great authority. (There weren't many dead ends, just paths that led into other paths.)

cornmaze2

And of course we bought a pumpkin, and rode the hayride, and admired the livestock, and had a snack of hot cider and pumpkin bread. Colin slept almost the whole time, which is exactly what one hopes from a baby in such an environment.

It was a lovely afternoon.

fall_field
rivka: (Default)
Are your LJ RSS feeds updating properly?
rivka: (for god's sake)
Since coming home from work, not in order:

Play I Spy bingo.
Read aloud three chapters of More All of a Kind Family.
Bring up "new" toys and books from the basement.
Make first proper dinner since Michael got sick: roast beef with dijon horseradish sauce, baked potatoes, and peas for them as gots teeth; sweet potato slices and Cheerios for them as don't.
Put up leftovers.
Wash dishes and the day's bottles, bibs, and pump parts.
Wipe down highchair and sweep dining room floor.
Wipe Colin down with wet paper towels although he really needs a bath.
Bathe Alex, brush her teeth, and dress her for bed.
Read stories. Sing songs.
Put away two baskets of clean laundry.
Collect and wash a new loadtwo new loads of laundry.
Change and pajama Colin.
Saline-drop and bulb-syringe Colin's nose, twice.
Nurse.
Nurse.
Nurse.
Nurse.
Nurse.
Nurse.
rivka: (Rivka and Misha)
Michael does a hell of a lot of housework and childcare. I have plenty of friends whose domestic burdens would not be appreciably increased if their husbands were out of commission, but I am not one of them.

Also there is only so long that I can tolerate a four-year-old who is unwilling to settle for being the center of attention less than 100% of the time. To the extent that she shoves her face in the baby's face to distract him from nursing. And throws "I HATE PLAYING ALONE!!!!" tantrums if asked to play by herself for five freaking minutes.

And our house is a pit.

And Colin is getting another cold (I don't think it's the flu) and I just had to make extensive use of saline nose drops and the bulb syringe. As I've had cause to say before, if my children put me in a substandard nursing home when I am old it will be because of that damned snotsucker.

I remind myself firmly that getting the flu myself would not be as relaxing as it seems from my current vantage point.
rivka: (ouch)
Michael has the flu.

He started feeling a bit under the weather on Tuesday night, and by Wednesday afternoon he felt (and looked) awful. Oddly, he's not running a fever at all. When Alex had it, she seemed much sicker than her relatively low fever would suggest; Michael seems to be following the same pattern.

He went to our doctor today. She prescribed Tamiflu and also an antibiotic because she didn't like the way his lungs sounded. (Our doctor hands out antibiotics like candy.)

Tamiflu needs to be taken in the first day or two of symptoms to be effective, so I became livid when I went to the pharmacy this evening and the pharmacist told me that they had to order more Tamiflu and wouldn't have it until tomorrow. I asked her why she didn't tell Michael this when he dropped the prescription off earlier in the day, or at least call us when she realized they didn't have it. She shrugged and told me that I could have the prescription back if I wanted to take it elsewhere. Then she said that, also, they didn't have the Prozac refill I had called in the day before, because she was going to have to order that too.

So I became That Customer. I raised my voice and said "This is absolutely unacceptable," and explained why. An assistant manager nearby heard me, as I had intended him to, and he came over to investigate the situation. He found my Prozac prescription already filled and waiting on the rack. Then he called around until he found another pharmacy branch that still had Tamiflu in stock and faxed Michael's prescription over there. After a few more rounds of drama (it was faxed to the wrong number and I had to track down what had happened and get them to re-send it), Michael finally wound up with meds in hand. Whew.

I hate this damn pharmacy. They are constantly running out of things and having to order more, or asking me to accept 24 hours worth of pills because they don't have enough right now to fill my full prescription. But, you know, they're a block from our house and they're open 24 hours. It's hard to change.

I had a headache earlier, but I think it was just stress. I've had a lot of that lately, and it's always ramped up by having to deal with both kids solo for long periods of time. (Even if Michael were feeling up to caring for them, we don't really want him touching them.) I was hoping that Michael had seasonal flu, for which I have already been vaccinated, but our doctor thinks it's more likely to be H1N1. Keeping my fingers crossed.
rivka: (smite)
Dear Colin:

GOOD BABIES SLEEP PAST 4:30 A.M.

That is all.
rivka: (Alex the queen)
Alex brought me a sheet of paper and said proudly, "I wrote a story."

I looked at it.

alexs_story

"Would you tell me what it says?" I asked. And she narrated:

Everything is possible because of God.
What if God is everything? If God is everything, than everybody is everything.
Everybody is so familiar, because they're everything.
Everybody is sailing on one big spaceship through the air, and that spaceship is called the world.
And we should be perfect in the lights of the truth.
And all the children should get to play, and the grownups should get to play with them.

("It's turning into a song now," she said then, and finished up by singing.)

Everybody needs the world
The world is so happy.

"Can I share your story with my computer friends?" I asked. She nodded.
rivka: (bigger colin)
I missed the seven month update, probably in no small part because that's when Colin became mobile. He started crawling right at seven months, followed a few days afterward by pulling up to stand. Now, at eight months, he is a lightning-fast crawler, able to pull himself up on just about anything and then lower himself carefully back down again, and beginning to cruise along the furniture.

He is thrilled. He greets his own physical achievements with a delighted crowing laugh, and meets our eyes with his best "ZOMG ISN'T THIS AWESOME!!!" expression.

baby_that_ate_new_york

He seeks out, with unerring accuracy, anything he isn't supposed to have. Then he puts it in his mouth. Paper is a particular favorite here, but I also removed a large rough pebble from his mouth once. I think he found it in the fireplace?

This is going to sound crazy, but I think he's trying to say Alex's name. He calls out "A-lah" with suspicious frequency.

He has just started to show an interest in a few of his books - the ones with baby photos or animal sounds. I don't know if this is a personality difference from Alex - she was fascinated by books from a very very early age - or if it has more to do with being the second child. He doesn't get read to nearly as often as she did at his age. Mostly if I'm reading aloud I'm reading to Alex.

Still, he doesn't seem to feel neglected:

overalls_boy2

He has taken to solid food very well. He likes Cheerios, rice, mashed potatoes, bits of soft fruit. He doesn't really go for pureed fruit, but he likes his yellow and orange vegetables and his veggie-meat blends. He doesn't really have a thumb-and-finger pincer grip yet, so he eats Cheerios by swiping at them with his whole hand, making a fist, and then unwrapping his fingers one at a time until a Cheerio appears. Then he pushes it up the hand with his thumb and into his mouth.

Still no teeth, except for the one tiny little white speck on his gum that's been there for months.

He still nurses very often. Nursing these days involves an awful lot of pinching, prodding, nail-digging, and miscellaneous grabbing, unless he's swaddled, so it's not so fun for me. I am trying to train him to hold on to my shirt or hand, with some success. I also hope to teach him the critical importance of unlatching first and then whipping his head around to see what's behind him.

Naps are settling into a schedule: usually three times a day, midmorning, midafternoon, and dinnertime, usually at least an hour each. He still wakes to eat a few times a night. We've had some difficult nights - last night he woke up several times sobbing, not consoled by nursing - but I think that was the only time. Usually a bad night is when he feeds and feeds and feeds and feeds with his eyes closed the whole time. I am not outrageously sleep-deprived, although I am starting to think that it's time to set up the crib. Although I do like sleeping with him and cuddling him at night.

He's such a sweet, affectionate boy. He holds his arms out to his favorite people (Mama, Papa, and his nanny Nia) and tries to climb into their arms. He snuggles in. My absolute favorite is when he absolutely wants to be standing (because, you know, STANDING!!) but is also sleepy: he stands up on my lap and bends over to rest his head on my shoulder.

He really is my darling. So cute, so lovable, so cuddly, so sweet, so happy.

standing_colin
rivka: (Rivka P.I.)
This morning I was scheduled to present my research at the hourlong general staff seminar, in front of the eminent and notable (and scary) Dr. Institute Director, my division director, and about forty other people.

I had strong work to present. I put together a great presentation. I practiced it in front of [livejournal.com profile] wcg and [livejournal.com profile] curiousangel, which was especially helpful because my general staff audience was not going to be composed of psychologists.

Two hours before I was due to go on, I had (a) no childcare, and (b) the beginning stages of a raging cold.

Our nanny was sick. Our backup childcare person wasn't answering her phone. Michael had already taken unscheduled time away from work to take care of the kids just last Friday, and we were both a little unsure where his boss would want to draw the line. Oh: and I had a headache and cough and a swimming head.

I finally got through to a friend on the phone, and she was so awesome that before I could get my groveling request out of my mouth she offered to come over with her two-year-old to care for Colin. Michael came home just in case I had to leave before she got there, and then stayed to drive me to work. I actually got there with enough time to spare that I could look over my presentaton a few times before the seminar. I still felt dangerously light-headed as I loaded my presentation, and I had to have a water bottle on the podium to deal with coughing fits.

And then? Then I utterly rocked my prsentation. I hit it out of the park.

It was very well received. People made a lot of comments and asked cogent questions. There was only a little whispering among the senior staff (usually a chronic problem). People seemed to be genuinely interested, which is so not a given when a behavioral scientist gets up in front of a bunch of virologists and immunologists.

Dr. Institute Director was stuck in traffic and didn't arrive until about 45 minutes in, which was unfortunate. Or maybe fortunate. I would've liked him to hear about my research, but I confess that I did feel safer with him absent.

Afterwards, the adrenaline that got me through the presentation ebbed away and I started to feel very ill indeed. Lydia had no trouble believing that it would be better for all concerned if I just went home. Phew. I felt wrecked.

But man did I ever do a good job at general staff. I am proud. And grateful to my community, without whom it wouldn't have happened.
rivka: (motherhood)
In the space of five minutes tonight, Alex got sent upstairs for hurting Colin and got all her markers, crayons, pens, and colored pencils confiscated, to be used only under close adult supervision.

Really in the space of five minutes. I was right in the middle of the "we will never, ever allow you to hurt anyone, especially your brother" speech when I had to break it off and say "...did you draw all over that ball with marker? Okay, give me the marker."

And that's just one tiny snapshot from a day full of random direct disobedience. We left two pairs of lovely new shoes we were going to buy her on the floor of the shoe store and walked out, and it still didn't make an impression.

What can you do? Finally I asked Alex if she wanted to start the day over again. I sent her into the foyer and had her close the door. Then she entered with great fanfare: "Hi! I'm home after being out of the house all day."

I hugged her and told her I was glad to see her. We traded ridiculous stories about what we had done all day. I patted myself on the back for finding a great way to reset the negativity and relate to each other with better attitudes.

Then I looked up and saw that she was peeling pieces off my mouse pad.

In other news, Colin has refused to nap longer than 20 minutes all day long, after being up before six this morning. He is such a tired crankypants that... well... honestly? He's such a tired crankypants that he's almost as much of a tired crankypants as I am.
rivka: (Alex the queen)
It's bedtime. I tuck Alex in and reach for last night's bed companions: a stuffed mermaid and a doll named Everest.

"I don't want to sleep with them," Alex says. "They don't think a girl can get married to a girl. They think a girl can only marry a boy and a boy can only marry a girl." She picks up a tiny stuffed loon. "But Ducky believes that civil marriage is a civil right, so I'm letting him sleep here to honor him."

"...Okay," I said. "But I hope that Mermaid and Everest change their minds."

"They change their minds every day."

"Good."

...Tell me again where we draw the line between raising children with a strong sense of justice, and pushing our political opinions on our kids.

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