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[rivka]

Here hanging out with my mother. She's looking well, moving around a little, sitting up in her recliner. She's still in obvious pain at times, but is pretty cheerful.

I'm going to try to do a bunch of housecleaning while we're here. My father's vision is poor, and he can't always do a good job as my mother would like with things like scrubbing the bathtub. I'll also see if she wants me to make up some meals and freeze them. My sister's in town, and some of my mother's friends have been dropping by with food, so that may not be necessary.

Also on our list of duties: dog walking. Lots and lots of dogwalking. Fortunately, my parents have the most adorable dog in the universe.

She really could have died. This wasn't really being acknowledged the other day. If my father had run into a friend when he was out in the corridor, instead of coming right back in and noticing that my mother was unconscious, she could have died.

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[melebeth]

*hug*

(nothing more productive to say than that)

[trinker.livejournal.com]

Maybe she could have.

But she didn't. Everything went right, and she didn't.

And now you're there, and get to spend time with her, and do the things for her that you'd be wishing you could be doing if you weren't.

Yay.

[bandhiaduit.livejournal.com]

it is *incredibly* difficult to see one's parent in a fragile state. I do understand. There's not much for friend/support to do but just BE there, and reminding you that what could have happened, didn't, and helping you to move on with it. How good that you are able to be with your mom and dad right now, it is good for you and for them. *hugs* offered.

[saoba.livejournal.com]

First of all, hugs to you if you want them.

Second, I'm glad you can be there for them and sad that it's been a scary time for all of you.

Continuing with Megawatt Good Thoughts for you and your family.

I had an interesting talk, last time we saw Mike's folks, with Mike's dad about seeing your parents grow old. He said the thing that struck him hardest was the day he had to tie his dad's tie for him before a family celebration.

[papersky.livejournal.com]

*hug*

[johnpalmer.livejournal.com]

I'm glad she's okay (for some value of okay), and I'm glad you're there with her.

And yes, she could have died, and yes, that's really scary (for me, as well, thinking about how it would have affected you).

As silly as it sounds, this reminds me of something Celine mentioned... it was one of the first things she said that made me realize she wasn't someone I could simply write of as just an egotistical bitch with an over-inflated sense of her intellect.

She said that, whenever she and her first husband were breaking communication (hanging up the phone, leaving the house, whatever) she always said "I love you" to him, as a kind of superstition - that was her word, I'd call it 'assurance' or somesuch - so that, if something happened to either of them, that would be the last words that were spoken.

It's not enough, and it's never enough, but that's all we have in this world, you know? To know that we did what we could.

Damn. And now I'm crying, remembering how glad I was to have seen my last email to Anna, and my standard closing greeting, 'love always'.

I reckon you don't read my journal, so I figure you might not have seen how that's my private joke, so I can let you in on it here... it's my dual purpose blessing, because love refers to what I feel, and what the other person can do.

You have my love, always.
Remember to love, always.

Sometimes the best 'jokes' aren't gutbusters after all.

Love always,

John

[porcinea.livejournal.com]

I'm glad she didn't.

[mittelbar.livejournal.com]

I'm glad you're there, scrubbing the bathtub. {squiiz}

[janetmiles.livejournal.com]

I am very glad, then, that your father was not distracted when he stepped out of the room, and glad that you're there visiting and taking care of your mother, and that she is recovering.

[micheinnz.livejournal.com]

You rock, y'know? *hug*

[kalmn.livejournal.com]

*hug*

[claire.livejournal.com]

Eeep. Only just got to read the last few entries on your LJ. I'll send you virtual hugs and lots of good thoughts that your mum keeps on getting better.

[therealjae.livejournal.com]

I'm glad you're there, and I'm sure she is, too.

And soon? You will be *here*! :-)

-J

[wcg.livejournal.com]

It's a great relief to see that things are now mostly OK. I hope she continues to improve, and that you feel better about everything by the time you have to leave there.