To me it looks like you lost your sense of perspective, in a couple of ways. One, that's a common joke, and I've never seen it used hurtfully, it's meant to be a shared acknowledgement that you did something so wonderful the only way to acknowledge it is to downplay it; two, you are placing a lot of importance on a casual remark that you are interpreting as an insult; and three, that newsgroup is not alt.cuddle, and even if that remark was intended as an insult it's a not-unpredictable thing to happen there.
However, I see (reading the other comments) that everyone disagrees with me. I'll be careful not to joke around you, since my idea of a joke obviously isn't congruent to yours. This joke is in the same category as referring to a spouse as "the old ball and chain," and can be done with good will and humor or with resentment and passive aggressive negativity. If you are sure you know which one was intended here, then of course you are reacting properly.
Even then, I say just throw it away. Don't let it spoil your sense of accomplishment and triumph. (In fact, does the fact that you are so bothered by it mean anything to you?)
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Date: 2003-09-03 02:35 pm (UTC)However, I see (reading the other comments) that everyone disagrees with me. I'll be careful not to joke around you, since my idea of a joke obviously isn't congruent to yours. This joke is in the same category as referring to a spouse as "the old ball and chain," and can be done with good will and humor or with resentment and passive aggressive negativity. If you are sure you know which one was intended here, then of course you are reacting properly.
Even then, I say just throw it away. Don't let it spoil your sense of accomplishment and triumph. (In fact, does the fact that you are so bothered by it mean anything to you?)