i also haven't really ever heard it used in a hostile manner, but instead it's a truly ancient witticism with which lots of phd's and phd candidates i've known have teased each other. so, yeah, i think dr. rivka is taking it a bit too much to heart. especially coming from what sounds to me like relative strangers in rasff.
it doesn't sound to me in either case like there's hostility towards rivka present, but it sounds a lot more like people who don't really know what to properly say -- lack of social ept, maybe? and in the second case, somebody is trying to congratulate who's not managed to accomplish the same zirself and sounds like zie's still smarting that failure.
that said, killfile anyone who feels like zie's raining on your parade, and enjoy your accomplishment! no reason to pay attention to people you don't even know. you worked hard, you earned it. congratulations!
(oh -- but i really hate "ball and chain" jokes, and have to sit on my fins to not bite off the heads of people who think they are funny -- i suspect most of us have one or another blind spot when it comes to jokes.)
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Date: 2003-09-03 07:16 pm (UTC)it doesn't sound to me in either case like there's hostility towards rivka present, but it sounds a lot more like people who don't really know what to properly say -- lack of social ept, maybe? and in the second case, somebody is trying to congratulate who's not managed to accomplish the same zirself and sounds like zie's still smarting that failure.
that said, killfile anyone who feels like zie's raining on your parade, and enjoy your accomplishment! no reason to pay attention to people you don't even know. you worked hard, you earned it. congratulations!
(oh -- but i really hate "ball and chain" jokes, and have to sit on my fins to not bite off the heads of people who think they are funny -- i suspect most of us have one or another blind spot when it comes to jokes.)