Once again, there is always Raphael Carter's rule, which applies in so, so, so many situations.
"When is it appropriate to ask an intersexual about the configuration of zir genitals?"
"In the same situations that it is appropriate to ask a man about his penis size."
In other words, not bloody many. Rivka, I love your detailed list of when one can ask and how. At the same time, anyone not willing to study and memorize such a detailed list (self-educate) is best advised to go with the simple: when in doubt, don't ask, don't comment, and don't offer help.
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Date: 2004-07-26 10:22 am (UTC)"When is it appropriate to ask an intersexual about the configuration of zir genitals?"
"In the same situations that it is appropriate to ask a man about his penis size."
In other words, not bloody many. Rivka, I love your detailed list of when one can ask and how. At the same time, anyone not willing to study and memorize such a detailed list (self-educate) is best advised to go with the simple: when in doubt, don't ask, don't comment, and don't offer help.