I wasn't intepreting your comment as criticism, actually, and my comment about "pulling weight" referred to my friend's perception of *my* situation, not Rivka's.

I wasn't meaning to be attacking at all. Really, prior to having children, I might have written a similar post. It's just that without having done it, it's hard for most people to really "get" why moms with small babies just don't "take more time to themselves." And I know that for my friend that particular bit in that particular book was really enlightening.