Sometimes what is needed is to leave the baby crying all alone and lock oneself in a room with a cup of tea until one stops howling (or swearing and kicking things) oneself. That's good parenting too.
Go end the war in Iraq, darlin'. Hell, end war everywhere. And hunger, and pestilence, too, while you're at it.
Or, heck, just beat yourself up for not being able to do those things. I mean, if you're going to beat yourself up for being human over parenting, why stop there? There are untold boatloads of misery that you could feel guilty about.
You are one of the strongest, kindest, wisest, and most wonderful people I know... but you are only human, and you have your limits, and one of them is not being able to be perfect.
I know it's hard, and I know it hurts, but, darlin', you won't do yourself or Alex any more good by being miserable about not doing more or being better or whatever parenting bit of guilt you're about to feel.
I wish like blazes there was something I could do to make things better... if there is, please ask.
![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
no subject
For what it's worth, you're an inspiration of a "Good Mom" (and good person) to me.
no subject
no subject
Thanks. I am so not a Good Mom right now, but it's nice to be reminded that other people don't see me as an overall Mom Failure.
no subject
Good parenting is graded in the aggregate, not the specific. Feel free to be a sucky parent occasionally -- you'll still be a good parent.
no subject
Sometimes what is needed is to leave the baby crying all alone and lock oneself in a room with a cup of tea until one stops howling (or swearing and kicking things) oneself. That's good parenting too.
no subject
no subject
no subject
100% of the time, she gets "not currently in danger or being abused or hungry or inadequately housed."
The 5% of the time that's *all* she gets means that 100% of the time, she gets *that*. Plus you don't collapse permanently.
no subject
Go end the war in Iraq, darlin'. Hell, end war everywhere. And hunger, and pestilence, too, while you're at it.
Or, heck, just beat yourself up for not being able to do those things. I mean, if you're going to beat yourself up for being human over parenting, why stop there? There are untold boatloads of misery that you could feel guilty about.
You are one of the strongest, kindest, wisest, and most wonderful people I know... but you are only human, and you have your limits, and one of them is not being able to be perfect.
I know it's hard, and I know it hurts, but, darlin', you won't do yourself or Alex any more good by being miserable about not doing more or being better or whatever parenting bit of guilt you're about to feel.
I wish like blazes there was something I could do to make things better... if there is, please ask.
no subject
I know how you feel, and even your brain knowing that you're doing fine doesn't always make your heart feel any better.