And I know just how difficult it can be to follow the "give yourself a break, go out and have a mom's night out" advice that everyone tends to give. Sure, it's good advice, but there are so many factors that make it actually seem like more trouble than it's worth.
Honestly, I don't even know what I would do with myself. It's not like there are tons of exciting things that I'd love to get out and do, and only the lack of childcare is holding me back.
I've had a gift certificate for a massage lying on the end table in the living room for months. It just never seems worth the effort to make an appointment and coordinate schedules with Michael and have it done.
Yep, I know what you mean. At one point in our parental negotiations around this stuff, Eric was suggesting that I have a standing "mom's night out" or "mom's afternoon off" or whatever. But that's not what I wanted - I wanted him to be accomodating and helpful when there was *was* some specific thing that I did want to do, but I didn't want to feel like I had to come up with something at a specified time every week.
I'm really sorry your recent date night with wcg bummed out so spectacularly. I always find those kinds of breaks to be especially invigorating, because they're so out of step with the usual grind.
I know exactly what you mean about organization. For my 40th birthday my in-laws gave us babysitting while we went to France (I've never been.) I'm 46, and we never made the trip -- we just never had the energy to schedule and arrange everything. Now we're talking about going as a foursome -- travelling with early teens is doable for us. But that's not the real point -- the real point is that you can be too tired to take care of yourself.
Would something as simple as an hour alone help you refuel? That's easier to arrange than most things: drop me off at a Starbucks or the public library or whatever and pick me up in an hour. Sometimes that's enough. Sometimes just getting to complete an uninterrupted thought is priceless.
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Honestly, I don't even know what I would do with myself. It's not like there are tons of exciting things that I'd love to get out and do, and only the lack of childcare is holding me back.
I've had a gift certificate for a massage lying on the end table in the living room for months. It just never seems worth the effort to make an appointment and coordinate schedules with Michael and have it done.
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I'm really sorry your recent date night with
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Would something as simple as an hour alone help you refuel? That's easier to arrange than most things: drop me off at a Starbucks or the public library or whatever and pick me up in an hour. Sometimes that's enough. Sometimes just getting to complete an uninterrupted thought is priceless.