There are times when I just feel wiped out and about to go mad. It helps to hand the baby off to Michael, go to a bookstore/coffee shop, and just have an hour to be me. Not a mother, not a wife, not an employee--just me.
As soon as Michael is feeling better, I hope you'll be able to reschedule that date with wcg. Maybe take up country dancing again?
At Evan's 9-month checkup, our doctor's handouts started off with, "Nine-month-olds are extremely energetic. Make sure you're getting enough rest." Those two sentences didn't seem particularly compatible at the time, but for about a month there, I fell asleep for the night when Evan did, and it did help my mood.
"just have an hour to be me. Not a mother, not a wife, not an employee--just me."
That sounds like heaven! I think one of the hardest things about being a mom is feeling responsible 24/7- even if someone else has the kids for a little while, I'm nearly always the one who arranged it, and I'm usually wondering in the back of my mind how they are doing. Even when I'm asleep I'm still listening for the kids in case they wake up. Someone at preschool the other day commented that kids are much harder to take care of than those eggs they used to make kids carry around in 7th grade, and we all laughed ruefully.
I have to have that alone time, or else I get extremely crabby. It's in everyone's best interest that I have some time to decompress. ;)
It seems hard enough to carve out that time when you're at the beck and call of just one imperious tyrant. Having a second child just seems like you're kissing goodbye whatever shreds of solitude you might have left. That is one of the main reasons why Evan will probably be an only child. (That, and I can't believe we lucked out in the genetic crapshoot. I was pretty worried that he would be deaf. Not that we couldn't have handled deafness, but all other things being equal, I would prefer to have a hearing child.)
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As soon as Michael is feeling better, I hope you'll be able to reschedule that date with
At Evan's 9-month checkup, our doctor's handouts started off with, "Nine-month-olds are extremely energetic. Make sure you're getting enough rest." Those two sentences didn't seem particularly compatible at the time, but for about a month there, I fell asleep for the night when Evan did, and it did help my mood.
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That sounds like heaven! I think one of the hardest things about being a mom is feeling responsible 24/7- even if someone else has the kids for a little while, I'm nearly always the one who arranged it, and I'm usually wondering in the back of my mind how they are doing. Even when I'm asleep I'm still listening for the kids in case they wake up. Someone at preschool the other day commented that kids are much harder to take care of than those eggs they used to make kids carry around in 7th grade, and we all laughed ruefully.
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It seems hard enough to carve out that time when you're at the beck and call of just one imperious tyrant. Having a second child just seems like you're kissing goodbye whatever shreds of solitude you might have left. That is one of the main reasons why Evan will probably be an only child. (That, and I can't believe we lucked out in the genetic crapshoot. I was pretty worried that he would be deaf. Not that we couldn't have handled deafness, but all other things being equal, I would prefer to have a hearing child.)