Memity meme meme meme
Apr. 25th, 2006 09:55 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
Man, my journal has really been all-Alex, all-the-time lately. I apologize to those of you who couldn't care less about OMG TEH CUTE BABY!!!11!one!.
Here's the deal: there are a few things that are completely obsessing and preoccupying me these days, and I feel comfortable discussing none of them on my LJ, for reasons varying from explicit legal advice to creeping paranoia. And, well, because they're completely obsessing me, not a lot of other subjects spring to mind. Except Alex, who is always safe and innocuous to discuss.
So, perhaps a meme, for variation and/or conversation starting. Via just about everyone:
How many times has someone on your friends list posted about something and you were really confused, but you didn't want to ask because you knew you SHOULD know? How many times have you felt guilty asking a close LJ friend a question that should be obvious?
Well, here's your chance.
If you've missed a few things, missed an entry and are confused, ask me any thing. Even something EXTREMELY basic, like where I live! I'm not allowed to get even slightly irritated at any of the questions - we've all missed things before.
This would also be a fine place to ask questions about things that I haven't referenced in a post, with the understanding that if it references one of the Forbidden Subjects I will probably hedge.
Here's the deal: there are a few things that are completely obsessing and preoccupying me these days, and I feel comfortable discussing none of them on my LJ, for reasons varying from explicit legal advice to creeping paranoia. And, well, because they're completely obsessing me, not a lot of other subjects spring to mind. Except Alex, who is always safe and innocuous to discuss.
So, perhaps a meme, for variation and/or conversation starting. Via just about everyone:
How many times has someone on your friends list posted about something and you were really confused, but you didn't want to ask because you knew you SHOULD know? How many times have you felt guilty asking a close LJ friend a question that should be obvious?
Well, here's your chance.
If you've missed a few things, missed an entry and are confused, ask me any thing. Even something EXTREMELY basic, like where I live! I'm not allowed to get even slightly irritated at any of the questions - we've all missed things before.
This would also be a fine place to ask questions about things that I haven't referenced in a post, with the understanding that if it references one of the Forbidden Subjects I will probably hedge.
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Date: 2006-04-25 02:10 pm (UTC)I'm hoping to eat at Mandalay in May.
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Date: 2006-04-25 02:18 pm (UTC)-J
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Date: 2006-04-25 02:20 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-04-25 02:19 pm (UTC)Now I will have to make the soup (http://rivka.livejournal.com/74548.html) again.
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Date: 2006-04-25 03:39 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-04-25 04:54 pm (UTC)Not planning on Balticon, either - in fact, we've never been. But we'd be happy to meet up with Balticon attendees while they're in town!
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Date: 2006-04-25 04:08 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-04-25 04:55 pm (UTC)Thank you.
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Date: 2006-04-25 10:23 pm (UTC)B
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Date: 2006-04-25 04:35 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-04-25 04:56 pm (UTC)It does continue to feel like a huge loss in my life. I want to get back into it. I just don't think that I can say when.
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Date: 2006-04-25 05:31 pm (UTC)I just post them on the assumption that getting started is better than not doing it at all.
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Date: 2006-04-25 05:31 pm (UTC)(I also hope that the various Forbidden Subjects resolve themselves in ways that bring joy - or at least non-obsessing. And not just because I want you to have the time and energy for blogging...)
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Date: 2006-04-25 07:26 pm (UTC)So.. in light of having my question stolen.. what brought you do the work you currently do (assuming that's not one of the Forbidden Subjects)?
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Date: 2006-04-26 05:58 pm (UTC)On the general level: I was a psych major in college because it seemed to me that psychologists asked all the really interesting questions about the world.
Based on my college interests, if I'd gone directly from college to grad school, I would've concentrated on community psychology - probably interventions with high-risk kids or domestic violence/sexual assault issues. I applied to grad schools with that in mind, but didn't get in anywhere on the first go-round.
Late in my senior year, a classmate gave a presentation in class about a new subfield of psychology called "Behavioral Medicine," which focused on psychological aspects of medical illness. I was fascinated. It dovetailed neatly with my growing consciousness of the social identity aspects of disability, and of the ways that being disabled shaped my life. So the next year, I applied to graduate schools again - this time concentrating on schools with Behavioral Medicine programs.
On the specific level: I am an HIV specialist because when I entered the internship match system (clinical psych grad school requires a one-year predoctoral internship), I matched to the University of Maryland. Their behavioral medicine internship had a heavy concentration in HIV. Although HIV had always interested me - it's a great population for practicing behavioral medicine, because there are so many levels on which the principles apply - I was dubious about how much I'd like working with a hardcore inner-city population. It turned out that I loved it. So after internship, I stayed.
I've become more and more specialized as an HIV researcher and clinician over the past few years, and don't see myself as very likely to change.
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Date: 2006-04-27 07:42 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-04-28 03:19 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-04-28 08:23 pm (UTC)I spent most of the first visit explaining medical stuff. The second visit, he recommended I start Cymbalta (which has worked, almost immediately I was more functional and now I'm back to waking up happy), but he also thought I should work an hour a day or so, to keep my brain busy.
I explained to him that any money I make has to go to the private disability company so there's no use wasting the effort. He said I could just not tell them about it and I said I put it on my taxes and they require me to sign the release so they get my tax forms. He said I could just get paid in cash and not put it on my tax forms. I told him, no, I couldn't cheat on my taxes (my friend Mark considers this a phobia). He also said I should join Mensa (I used words he didn't know), but I told him that there were just as many smart people in fandom and they were more fun.
He wanted me to start therapy because anybody as sick as I am needs therapy. I argued, but my primary backed him up, and so I've been twice. The therapist both times increased the wait for the next appt, she doesn't seem to think I need help, but she thinks we need to show an effort to the primary & psych, so there'll be a couple more visits, probably.
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Date: 2006-04-25 10:24 pm (UTC)And then see what happens next?
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Date: 2006-04-25 07:10 pm (UTC)The non-question: while I don't know (nor have any level whatsoever of need-to-know) what's bothering you, I still hope that it is all resolved, in the way most positive for you and yours, quickly and easily. Best wishes.
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Date: 2006-04-26 05:50 pm (UTC)We knew by Saturday at dinnertime that we were very much taken with each other. We went home on Sunday and e-mailed each other every day, reams and reams of mail. A month later he came up to visit me in Iowa City, and at the end of his week's visit we knew we were going to get married.
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Date: 2006-04-26 12:18 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-04-26 05:46 pm (UTC)We chose my job title by setting my salary and then looking to see what titles incorporated that figure. Before my last raise I was a "Research Coordinator."
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Date: 2006-04-27 12:58 pm (UTC)But this entry is like asking me not to think about Pink Elephants! So, all I can do is worry about Pink Elephants!(or Forbidden Subjects...)
Legal advice? Creeping paranoia? Can't you at least let us know if you are okay?
Please? Even in a hedging way. :)
If not, my questions is: would you write an entry detailing a fairly typical "day in the medical researcher psychologist's workplace?"
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Date: 2006-04-27 04:03 pm (UTC)Yes, I will make a poat along those lines, although it might take a few days for it to go up.
(And thanks for reading.)