I am way too young for this conversation with my daughter.

[rivka]

Alex and I were talking about growing up. She plans to grow as big as Sarah who dyed her hair blue (this is the teen we chaperoned at SUUSI), and then stop growing. She was asking how big I am, and how big her father is. Then I asked,

Me: Do you think you'll have a baby grow inside you someday, when you grow up?
Alex: No, I don't want a baby.
Me: You know, that's totally up to you. You don't need to have a baby if you don't really want one.
Alex: But someone might give me a baby. A boy might send some sperm into my uterus.
Me: (utterly dying): Only if you say it's okay. If you don't want a baby, you can say no.
Alex: What if someone wants to, and I don't?
Me: Then you say, 'No. I don't want to.'
Alex: Oh. Okay.

Oh. My. God. I know she doesn't... she doesn't know what she's implying. She really doesn't. But oh my God.

Comments

[johnpalmer.livejournal.com]

Nod. I think it's just "but how do I know sperm won't get inside me *accidentally*?"

I remember I went through a period of time (back when I thought a vagina was on a woman's hip, not between her legs) that you could have a baby accidentally, by just sleeping cuddled up and, oops, they woke up with his penis in her vagina!

[hobbitbabe.livejournal.com]

I thought the sperm were a vapour phase that could travel through pajamas and air.

[piqueen.livejournal.com]

I can remember being on holiday and sitting in a rock pool and suddenly noticing there were lots of little tiny fishes and getting up in a panic, guilt-stricken, wondering if I'd get pregnant. *blushes*

So she may be more amazed that she has the capacity to have a baby and worried that it will happen 'by accident' some how, rather than the more alarming alternative.