I am way too young for this conversation with my daughter.

[rivka]

Alex and I were talking about growing up. She plans to grow as big as Sarah who dyed her hair blue (this is the teen we chaperoned at SUUSI), and then stop growing. She was asking how big I am, and how big her father is. Then I asked,

Me: Do you think you'll have a baby grow inside you someday, when you grow up?
Alex: No, I don't want a baby.
Me: You know, that's totally up to you. You don't need to have a baby if you don't really want one.
Alex: But someone might give me a baby. A boy might send some sperm into my uterus.
Me: (utterly dying): Only if you say it's okay. If you don't want a baby, you can say no.
Alex: What if someone wants to, and I don't?
Me: Then you say, 'No. I don't want to.'
Alex: Oh. Okay.

Oh. My. God. I know she doesn't... she doesn't know what she's implying. She really doesn't. But oh my God.

Comments

[rivka.livejournal.com]

As you might guess, the uterus is a hot topic around these parts lately. We had a prolonged discussion this morning of what would happen if a yellowjacket stung me on the uterus, and whether it would poison the Niblet.

We haven't talked about sperm in a while, though, so I was a little surprised that she understood that part of things at that level.

I don't know whether to congratulate you or be very very afraid.

Frankly, I find her terrifying. Or more accurately, I find being her parent terrifying. I don't know if I ever would've been ready to have this conversation with my daughter, but I certainly wasn't expecting it at THREE AND A HALF.

No means no

[hazelchaz]

But you're teaching her, early, that she has the right to say "no." I And answering her questions, not evading them. You're doing all right/

[namedphoenix.livejournal.com]

yeah, I can't imagine having that conversation with a daughter of mine, either.

As a high school teacher, I can be objective and talk to the young girls about their choices, should the subject come up and stuff, because they aren't mine. But if they were my own? and I birthed them? Yeah. I'm not ready for motherhood at all!