I speak as an only child, an A+ baby born healthy to an O- mother who had already had several failed pregnancies. I have always carried the weight of all those expectations, as well as that of my younger brother whom we lost.
Yes, I'm very strong, perhaps because of all that, perhaps in spite of it. But it's hard. Confusing, painful, and hard. You've had all those feelings so maybe you understand a little....
I would echo this thought: love Niblet for what he is, not for what might have been.
Otherwise, I've never borne a child myself, so all else I can send you is good wishes and *hugs*.
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Date: 2009-02-01 02:39 pm (UTC)I speak as an only child, an A+ baby born healthy to an O- mother who had already had several failed pregnancies. I have always carried the weight of all those expectations, as well as that of my younger brother whom we lost.
Yes, I'm very strong, perhaps because of all that, perhaps in spite of it. But it's hard. Confusing, painful, and hard. You've had all those feelings so maybe you understand a little....
I would echo this thought: love Niblet for what he is, not for what might have been.
Otherwise, I've never borne a child myself, so all else I can send you is good wishes and *hugs*.