rivka: (motherhood)
rivka ([personal profile] rivka) wrote2010-08-04 05:47 pm

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I am so not feeling the Parenting thing right now.




ObSnark: Probably because my kids were planned.

[identity profile] treadpath.livejournal.com 2010-08-04 09:49 pm (UTC)(link)
I hear ya, Mama. Hope it gets better soon. *hug*

Re: Obsnark

[identity profile] treadpath.livejournal.com 2010-08-04 10:16 pm (UTC)(link)
Absolutely correct. The history of scientific inquiry is marked by incontrovertible evidence that once something is published, it is FACT and irrefutable FOREVER. Just ask a brontosaurus.
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[personal profile] ailbhe 2010-08-04 10:29 pm (UTC)(link)
My brain is still hurting from thinking about that. I see you deanonymised.

My kids are nicer when I've had something to eat. And sometimes ten minutes locked alone in a soundproof room. With chocolate.

[identity profile] rivka.livejournal.com 2010-08-04 11:03 pm (UTC)(link)
I see you deanonymised.

Yeah, I exchanged some mail with her and decided that I was comfortable linking.

My kids are nicer when I've had something to eat. And sometimes ten minutes locked alone in a soundproof room. With chocolate.

As is generally the case, the day I came down with this case of So Over Them just happens to be a day that Michael has an evening meeting at church.

Colin is hard to put to bed these days, so I'm guessing that I will be through with them in... three hours? Oh dear.

[identity profile] kcobweb.livejournal.com 2010-08-04 11:09 pm (UTC)(link)
As is generally the case, the day I came down with this case of So Over Them just happens to be a day that Michael has an evening meeting at church.

But that's always how it goes..... Good luck getting through the evening.
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[personal profile] ailbhe 2010-08-05 08:43 am (UTC)(link)
Linnea says, "You can't eat your OWN children."

I hope it was ok in the end.

[identity profile] shandra.livejournal.com 2010-08-04 11:12 pm (UTC)(link)
Occasionally a successful day is all about not eating the young.

[identity profile] mizchalmers.livejournal.com 2010-08-04 11:25 pm (UTC)(link)
I subscribe to this philosophy!
kate_nepveu: sleeping cat carved in brown wood (SteelyKid - grumpy baby is grumpy)

[personal profile] kate_nepveu 2010-08-05 12:26 am (UTC)(link)
Or exposing them on a hillside, yes indeedy.

[identity profile] jonquil.livejournal.com 2010-08-05 12:27 am (UTC)(link)
Yes. "Did anybody die? Did anybody lose a limb? Was everybody fed? Then I win."

[identity profile] bosssio.livejournal.com 2010-08-04 11:58 pm (UTC)(link)
This morning my kids were going to be donated with the rest of the basemenet stuff.

[identity profile] jonquil.livejournal.com 2010-08-05 12:26 am (UTC)(link)
Every parent needs a few good solid threats that are clearly impractical. Mine, for many years, was "I'm going to turn you into a newt!" until one day my son looked up and me gleefully and said "You CAN'T!" After that it was "wrap you up in duct tape and leave you out for the dinosaurs." Which led to some entertaining conversations over the years.

This sort of thing lets off steam.

Gosh, not only were mine abused but so was I! Shock horror!

[identity profile] tchemgrrl.livejournal.com 2010-08-05 02:36 am (UTC)(link)
My father stole his father's silly-threat line:

Call: "I'm going to take off my belt and the you know what'll happen!"
Response: "Your pants will fall down!"

It's an interesting cultural shift in the years between those generations--my father understood the corollary growing up ("when other fathers say this it means X, but when I say it, I will only ever mean Y"). But to my sisters and I, we were merely being threatened with a mooning, and we literally didn't understand that there was a violent meaning behind "taking off one's belt" until we were nearly in high school.

[identity profile] huladavid.livejournal.com 2010-08-05 11:47 am (UTC)(link)
And on the opposite horse, when my older sister was but a wee thing, her favourite threat to our parents was, "When I get big, and you get little..."

[identity profile] jinian.livejournal.com 2010-08-05 05:06 am (UTC)(link)
(I must be more abused than about anybody, considering that I had to be made by artificial insemination.)
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[personal profile] ailbhe 2010-08-05 08:45 am (UTC)(link)
I was born before legal contraception was available in a country without divorce or marital rape. Mmhmm.

[identity profile] papersky.livejournal.com 2010-08-05 12:03 pm (UTC)(link)
One day, you'll be lying in bed reading your book and the phone will ring and it'll be one of the kids, just got out of work, and you'll chat to them about books until they get to the metro and can't talk any more, and ring off, reluctantly.

That's the victory condition, that's like getting to Alpha Centauri.

On the geography thing -- Amtrak's website has good whole country train maps and can make planning trips interesting. She could work out how I got to you from Denver and how I got home, if she remembers that.

Beta Centauri

(Anonymous) 2010-08-06 03:28 am (UTC)(link)
Alternatively, they'll fly in to stay with you for a week or two, and make your life so easy by doing the washing and cooking dinner for you before you get home from work. And you'll sit about laughing about the olden days and drinking a glass of wine together. It will happen, however difficult it seems to be to imagine it now.

Emma

[identity profile] minnehaha.livejournal.com 2010-08-09 03:24 pm (UTC)(link)
The grandchildren are also the Alpha Centauri of parenting.

K.

[identity profile] almeda.livejournal.com 2010-08-11 04:00 pm (UTC)(link)
I particularly love how she keeps refusing to see that the societies (fictional or non-) under discussion with the highest birth rates are the ones with government-run or -supported creches, that allow female parents a high degree of autonomy to get on with their lives WHILE ALSO BREEDING.

Oh, and I also adore that 'having your childrearing abilities aided by society' in her mind does not map either to help from extended families or governmental intervention, because neither of THOSE are SOCIETY to her. Ack, ptui. I'd comment, but what's the point? She won't see me either.

[identity profile] almeda.livejournal.com 2010-08-11 05:46 pm (UTC)(link)
Another blogpost (http://elleabd.blogspot.com/2010/08/well-this-might-be-new-angle.html) also relevant to this discussion, from another angle.

(Anonymous) 2010-08-12 09:46 am (UTC)(link)
Hey Rivka,
I hope you are okay, and just not feeling like posting. Rather than not okay and not posting. Take care of yourself.
cheers
Emma