(no subject)
Jul. 8th, 2004 05:51 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
rivkaI have something to say.
Five years ago, I developed a blister on my labia after having condom-protected sex with a new partner. Testing identified it as herpes simplex 1, a form which usually, but not always, presents orally. How I got infected remains a mystery to this day.
I am not dirty. I am not disgusting. I am not a pariah. It does not go without saying that I should absent myself from poly settings for life. Sleeping with me is not a sign that you lack intelligence or self-respect, it is a sign that you are really fucking lucky.
And unless you have never had genital contact with another human being, you'd be a fool to think that it couldn't have happened to you.
That is all.
Five years ago, I developed a blister on my labia after having condom-protected sex with a new partner. Testing identified it as herpes simplex 1, a form which usually, but not always, presents orally. How I got infected remains a mystery to this day.
I am not dirty. I am not disgusting. I am not a pariah. It does not go without saying that I should absent myself from poly settings for life. Sleeping with me is not a sign that you lack intelligence or self-respect, it is a sign that you are really fucking lucky.
And unless you have never had genital contact with another human being, you'd be a fool to think that it couldn't have happened to you.
That is all.
![[identity profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/openid.png){kind=small}
no subject
Date: 2004-07-08 08:56 pm (UTC)In my idealist zealot safer sex educator days I probably would have been as fucked up and obnoxious but I'm now 15 years older and I think a lot wiser about realistic expectations.
To me, personally, the boundary is communication or lack thereof. Responsibility can be divined better through talking than it can be through medical records. I think the OP seems to feel that responsible people are identical to people who have never had a disease. Which is, duh, not objectively true.