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[rivka]

Alex cut her hair. Again. I am completely disgusted with her. The last thing I had time for today was an emergency salon appointment.

I don't think today was the first time, either. There was a section near the front that I had noticed a while ago was suspiciously short. She denied cutting it. (This time our nanny caught her.)

She chose a new style which is quite pretty, and I confess that I am secretly delighted that I won't have to try to wrestle her hair into a ballet bun anymore, because I sucked at it. And her hair was difficult to care for because it's so fine. But for God's sake I have frequently offered to take her to the damn salon if she wants her hair cut. It is completely ridiculous of her to chew at it with scissors.



I wish there were a way to keep people from fussing over how cute she looks, because I don't want her to get a lot of positive attention for misbehaving. But of course there isn't a way.

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[rivka.livejournal.com]

After giving this some thought, I'd say that for a child who is too young to really notice that her hair looks awful, this is no consequence at all. For a child old enough to notice that her hair looks awful, it's a punishment based on humiliation. That's something I won't do.

[journeywoman.livejournal.com]

My take on it is that it's a natural consequence. Humiliation would be if you took a pair of scissors to her hair and tried to make it even worse, or if you told other people in front of her how dreadful it was.

As for other people thinking less of you as a parent, 1) who cares what they think, and 2) I assume that at that age, the child has a lot more control over appearance than, say, an infant would. It seems like it's been pretty standard for a few yrs now for parents of kids in E's cohort to shrug and say, "She dressed herself today."

Anyway. I'm glad the dress rehearsal went well, and I hope Snowflake's mom doesn't cause any drama tonight!

[gerisullivan.livejournal.com]

Thanks, for the insight and also for answering at such a busy time.

Merry Christmas and much love'n'joy to your entire family!