Miscellaneous notes.
Jan. 10th, 2003 10:35 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
rivkao We looked at a house today that I love. Huge, full of light (there's a central light well with a spiral staircase, and big skylights in the roof, and the second and third story rooms open up to the light well), hot tub in the finished part of the basement, eat-in kitchen with lots and lots of cupboards, ginormous master bedroom/sitting room, gorgeous master bath with another skylight, fireplace in the (admittedly teensy) living room, big deep bay window (the house used to be a storefront)... I. LOVE. It.
What the hell do we do now?
o![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
curiousangel and I finally bought the DVD player we'd agreed to give each other for Christmas, and joined Netflix. Our first movies arrived today. We just finished watching Lilo and Stitch. I bawled my head off. I was charmed by his admission that he cried and cried the first time he saw it, too. This is what makes him consummately marriage material.
o When it comes to comfort food, simpler is better. We had beef stew for dinner: a pound of chuck beef, cubed, seared in a little bit of olive oil. A small onion, two very large potatoes, two handfuls of halved baby carrots, two handfuls of quartered mushrooms, a can of beef broth, water to cover, a bay leaf, a generous amount of black pepper, added to the beef and cooked for an hour. Mmmm, stew.
o Oooooh, Lilo! I'm totally in love.
o More serious topics later, I promise. I've been wanting to write some things about forgiveness - we're submitting a grant proposal, a therapy study involving people with end-stage AIDS who have "unfinished business" with important others in their lives. In the process of preparing a pitch letter for the granting agency, I came across a lot of stuff about definitions of forgiveness, and distinctions between forgiveness and related concepts (e.g., forgiveness is not reconciliation, or forgetting, or condoning, or excusing, or...). I've struggled with how to conceptualize forgiveness, in my clinical practice, and I found this material fascinating. I want to post about it.
But not after half a bottle of wine.
What the hell do we do now?
o
curiousangel and I finally bought the DVD player we'd agreed to give each other for Christmas, and joined Netflix. Our first movies arrived today. We just finished watching Lilo and Stitch. I bawled my head off. I was charmed by his admission that he cried and cried the first time he saw it, too. This is what makes him consummately marriage material.o When it comes to comfort food, simpler is better. We had beef stew for dinner: a pound of chuck beef, cubed, seared in a little bit of olive oil. A small onion, two very large potatoes, two handfuls of halved baby carrots, two handfuls of quartered mushrooms, a can of beef broth, water to cover, a bay leaf, a generous amount of black pepper, added to the beef and cooked for an hour. Mmmm, stew.
o Oooooh, Lilo! I'm totally in love.
o More serious topics later, I promise. I've been wanting to write some things about forgiveness - we're submitting a grant proposal, a therapy study involving people with end-stage AIDS who have "unfinished business" with important others in their lives. In the process of preparing a pitch letter for the granting agency, I came across a lot of stuff about definitions of forgiveness, and distinctions between forgiveness and related concepts (e.g., forgiveness is not reconciliation, or forgetting, or condoning, or excusing, or...). I've struggled with how to conceptualize forgiveness, in my clinical practice, and I found this material fascinating. I want to post about it.
But not after half a bottle of wine.
![[identity profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/openid.png){kind=small}
no subject
Date: 2003-01-10 08:14 pm (UTC)the banker can help you check your credit.
go on! you know you want to!
actually, the first thing: decide if you want this house. if you do, you can make it happen. bankers are very helpful, and so are realtors. (i assume you have one, yes?)
no subject
Date: 2003-01-10 10:30 pm (UTC)And if you don't have a buyer's agent, get one. The seller's agent will be amazingly friendly, but they work for the seller and it's their responsibility to get them the best price they can. A buyer's agent works for you and is legally responsible for helping you get the best deal for your money. Their fees come out of the closing costs - you won't even feel them.
I was scared spitless of buying a house; I was just a year out of paying off my bankruptcy and went into it figuring "no way."
You've seen the house. (-: